Techniques addiction – What if Connection comes first?

 

 

 

 Techniques are in big demand nowadays – we’ve been led to believe that this is what we need – a good technique, if we want to accomplish anything. Anytime we find ourselves “in trouble”, the first thing we focus on is “what is the best thing To Do in order to get to where I want?”

Question: What would need to be true for us, to do that – to look for a way ‘to operate UPON a particular situation? To look for what to Do, rather than what to Be, for resolving it?

Obviously, we need to see ourselves as Separate of that situation and of the other people involved. We want a particular outcome to unfold and we use techniques to control the external circumstances to make that possible. We start from the presumption that what makes that outcome possible is a particular external circumstance. Thus, we focus on controlling the external circumstances…

 

Paradoxically, however, we live through a different understanding when it comes to our bodies. And, I would say, this understanding works much better and much more effective.

Think of this for a moment…

– you’re standing on a boat, floating through the waves

– you want to walk from one end to the other of it

– however, the waves are shaking the boat

Question:

– are you looking for a technique to control the waves (i.e., the external circumstances)?

– or are you focusing on maintaining the balance of your body, knowing that this is how you increase the chances for you to reach to the other end of the boat? And, even if you use various ‘helping techniques’, you know that their true and first purpose is maintaining the balance of your body, rather than manipulating the conditions, or even than ‘getting there’ – because we intrinsically Know that “walking” is not separated from our body… our body Makes the ‘walking’.

 

I bet that the second answer make the best sense to you…

 

What if this is what we first and foremost need, if we want to create in Alignment to the Natural Order of Things: Balance of the Mind, Presence, Connection?

What if the purpose of a technique is to facilitate for Us to Connect and Become Present, rather than “making Them” behave in a particular way?

What if Connection comes first?

 

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I believe that “Connection” already exists between us, but we’re not Aware of it, because we are not Present to the moment.

Selling IS Serving

People talk about Serving vs Selling.
However, Compulsory Service is not well received, really…

Where does the word Sell come from?
– Proto Germanic (about 2500 years old language): Saljan means to offer, to deliver
– Gothic (about 1500 years old): Saljan means to offer a sacrifice
– Old English: Sellan means to give, to give up, to surrender, to deliver
– Latin: Consilium means to give advice.

As you see, there’s nothing about Convincing or Persuasion, let alone Deceiving or Forcing someone to take a decision to your liking. Anything like that is NOT Selling, is something else…

Selling IS Serving – but, before Serving, one must make an Offer to Give, which needs to be Accepted.